Ways To Spruce Yourself Up

by Farida Dawkins
Losing one's self-confidence can be difficult.  Our self-esteem can decrease due to a multitude of circumstances.  However, the upside is we can recover.  If you find yourself needing a self-esteem boost keep reading for ways to feel like yourself and better in no time.
If you look good, you feel good.  Give yourself a mini makeover.  It doesn't have to be a drastic change.  A new haircut or hairstyle, a new color of lipstick or lip gloss or adding a new, stylish piece to your wardrobe can give you a much needed boost.
Read a self-help book.  Self improvement is key in life.  No one wants to stay stuck in a pattern constantly repeating negative habits.  We sometimes don't realize that our own self-destructive habits can inhibit our growth.  Seeing things from another point of view may trigger us to make needed changes.
Start journaling.  Writing down feelings can be greatly therapeutic.  It helps to jot things down and to release any negative emotions you may be harboring.  Journal writing can also help to make peace with certain situations when we're not able to get an apology we think we deserve or make peace with someone who may have hurt us willingly or unwillingly.
Check your surroundings.  People whom we associate ourselves with may NOT be the best thing for us.  If you find yourself around someone who puts you down, is un-supportive, abusive or rude it's time to ask yourself why this person is allowed to be in your bubble. Express how their behavior makes you feel.  If there is no change then it may be time to love that person...from a distance.
Talk to someone you trust.  Sometimes we just need to let it out. Vent.  Find a trusted confidante and express your emotions with that person.  They may help you see a different perspective or inspire you to make the change that will boost your confidence and esteem.  Also, if you're comfortable with the idea, you can seek a therapist to talk to as well.
Pray.  It always helps to know that there is a bigger entity than us.  Many religions see challenges as a way for us to grow and become our best self.  Tough times don't last but tough people do.  Look at yourself as a warrior that can conquer uncomfortable or negative situations.  Training your brain to look at situations in a positive light can help combat negative thoughts which in turn can diminish your esteem.
What are some things that have diminished your self-esteem and self-confidence? How were you able to overcome these circumstances? What are some things you do to boost yourself? I'd love to read your suggestions in the comment section!
Keep it cute and classy! Salaam and Peace!
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Hello! My name is Farida Dawkins and I am a blogger and aspiring writer. I graduated with a B.A. in communication studies from Alfred University. Black girls are fly because we are strong, we have massive amounts of style, grace and sassiness. We can adapt to situations and collectively we can contribute to meaningful changes in the world. I can be contacted at farida.dawkins@gmail.com|  Twitter | FB:Farida Dawkins| my blog.